September 6, 2019
Why Saying “No” Is Your New Superpower
One syllable. Two letters. ‘No.’
I once believed ‘no’ was a dirty word. But it’s slowly become one of the most important words in my vocabulary. The power and freedom of the word and learning how to say it is a game changer! But learning to see it as positive hasn’t been an easy feat. But it’s been worthwhile. If you’re ready to harness its power, here are my tips for getting started.
Understand why we say ‘no’
Avoiding saying ‘no’ is a self-preservation tactic. Because saying ‘no’ means that you can prevent conflict in every possible way. But, funny story, it turns out that the conflict will likely still happen, and the price paid is usually higher. So, why not save yourself some time and energy (two things we could all use some more of) and just say ‘no’ from the get-go! Telling someone ‘no’ when you mean it can be one of the most honorable and respectful things you can do, both for yourself and the other person.
Accept that ‘no’ is uncomfortable
I don’t know about you, but I like being comfortable! I’m perfectly content not to rock the boat. And saying ‘no’ can essentially guarantee that you will rock the boat. Unfortunately, there is no way around it. So face it head on. Remind yourself that it’s not supposed to be comfortable (is growth ever comfortable?!). Be kind to yourself.
Build that ‘no’ muscle
Think of it like strength trining. You can’t go to the gym for the first time in, oh forever, and start out by squatting your body weight. You have to start small. And by small, I mean small. Remember this when you’re building your ‘no’ muscle. Set some attainable goals like telling someone ‘no’ just once a week. This is how I started. After that first week, I felt more in control of my time and needs, and I wanted more.
Celebrate your ‘no’ wins
I’m a big believer that even the smallest wins deserve celebration! So share your ‘no’ journey with someone and relish in your success. After my first week, it felt amazing to meet my bestie for coffee and simply share my ‘no’ experience. However you like to celebrate, make sure you take the time to do it. Because saying no is hard work.
Sarah Wannemacher is ACPR’s Business Development Manager and recent spotify junkie. Radios currently playing in her airpods on her walk to work are Lilith Fair, Hot Girl Summer, and Diddy Radio. She likes to mix things up! #equalrightsforallmusic