April 14, 2020
Balancing #WFH and #MomLife
We’re embarking on week five of our “new normal” and somehow, like always, we’re finding a way. In truth, I’m vacillating between all the emotions while balancing #WFH and #MomLife.
I consider myself one of the lucky ones, as I’ve been able to continue to work from home while homeschooling my energetic seven year old. I would be lying if I said it was easy. Balance is challenging under ordinary circumstances. During this time, I’ve learned to cope by staying positive and going back to the basics. After all, I already have what I need to make it happen: strength, skills, and a support system. I’m relearning that life doesn’t have to be complicated, and if I stay realistic, committed to my new (albeit hopefully temporary) routine, and place kindness before everything else, I will find a way to make it through, while enjoying the moment and achieving success.
If after an Instagram scroll session, you find that you’re comparing yourself to others and, say their tricked out homeschooling setups or Pinterest-worthy home offices, STOP! Remember that not everything you see is reality. Be realistic about who you are, the situation you’re in, and what you’re able to do, and then, do what works for you. Start by determining what you can do. Then have a conversation with your child’s teacher, your employer, and your family and friends, that way you’re all on the same page. Strive for your best, but be fluid in what your “best” looks like. This is not the time for perfection!
Be committed to routine
A key to making it through this time is setting yourself up for success. And for me, that starts the night before. That means reflecting on my to-do list for the day, assessing the next day’s schedule, tidying up the house, and meal planning for the next day. Planning takes time and effort, but I’ve found that it’s well worth it, for me and for my son. Doing so allows me the little luxuries that I look forward to, like having a few moments of quiet while I enjoy my first cup of coffee in the morning. Some days committing to routine will be harder than others, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
It’s not a new concept, but it’s as important now than ever. Kindness starts with yourself. We working moms are being pulled in so many directions right now. What I know is that if we are not intentional in the way we are caring for ourselves right now, it’s impossible to care for others. So show kindness to yourself first. For me, that means taking the time for my morning coffee and my nightly bath. When it comes to sharing kindness with others, it’s been helpful for me to remind myself that everyone is doing their best. And kindness makes the world go round.
Sending all my fellow WFH mamas the strength and wisdom to return to the basics during this extraordinary time.
Sarah Wannemacher is ACPR’s Business Development Manager. Her daily coffee drinking habits have been taken to a whole new level and she now has a life goal of being a brand ambassador for Nespresso with George Clooney.