April 12, 2019
Ask Allyson: I Don’t Know How To Say No
ASK ALLYSON: Don’t get me wrong. I love my life. But lately it’s stressing me out. I work a full time job, have a boyfriend and the best friends, my family is beyond supportive, and I even joined a book club. But I feel like I have to say ‘yes’ to every single invitation. I have zero time for myself. What’s a girl to do? -All I Want To Do Is Face Mask And Chill
Dear All I Want To Do Is Face Mask And Chill,
Just say no. I know, it’s brutal. Because you want to be everything to everyone, and at all times. If that touched a nerve, I feel you. It did for me, too. For most of my life, I strove to be ‘that girl.’ The one who did it all, and still got 10 hours of sleep a night (yes, I require a lot of sleep), started everyday with a green juice and a workout, and always seemed to have a smile on her face and pep in her step (and glowing skin and pretty hair) no matter what was going on. But being ‘that girl’ comes with a price. Think of it like this: The more you say yes to others, the more you say no to yourself. Spoiler alert: This means no to the face mask and no to the chill, or whatever it is that you do to recharge. When you have nothing left to give, well, you have nothing left to give. To anyone. Including yourself. I totally get it. Saying no can be scary. So start small. Start where it feels safest and then work yourself up from there. The more you do it, the more natural it’ll feel and the more confident you’ll become doing it. When you finally are able to face mask and chill, make sure you put your phone on do not disturb so you can enjoy every minute of it.