July 31, 2018
A Day In the Life of A Master Confidence Coach
We’d be lying if we said we weren’t totally obsessed with Kara Loewentheil. She’s a Master Confidence Coach who teaches high achieving feminist women how to overcome anxiety and self-doubt so they can experience true confidence. She’s also the brains and voice behind the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, which boasts over 100K monthly downloads. We recently tagged along with Kara to find out how she spends a typical day.
Name: Kara Loewentheil
Occupation: Master Confidence Coach & Founder of UnF*ck Your Brain
Location: New York, NY
8:00 a.m. My alarm goes off in my apartment in Manhattan. I’m a night owl and since starting my own business I have reverted to my usual sleep schedule, which is about 2 a.m. to 10 a.m. But today I have to head out of town so I’m up “early” to pack. I have a Colombe cold brew with milk (regular milk from cows, as if it’s 1835 and no one has invented almond milk, much less oat milk yet) while I’m packing – it’s ridiculous that I order these cans in bulk, but they are delicious.
10:00 a.m. I have actually managed to get packed and out the door on schedule and arrive at my massage therapist’s office. I have a chronic condition in which my ligaments are very loose and so my bones shift all around and my muscles are super tight trying to hold everything in place. That means that my massage therapists, acupuncturist, and chiropractor are all part of what keep me physically functional. The flexibility of self-employment is key. In other news, there’s a very large and very alive iguana hanging out in the waiting room when I arrive; that’s not the norm.
11:30 a.m. Massage over and I’m ready to hit the road. I’m driving to a podcast conference in Philadelphia to learn how to improve my own show, the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast. On the way I listen to a couple of business-related podcasts and Everything is Love, the new Jay-Z and Beyonce album. I use Beyonce in my coaching all the time, as an example of how no matter how talented, beautiful, and rich you are, all human lives include challenge and pain – and can include incredible achievement despite all that. Even Beyonce got cheated on!
12:30 p.m. I’m halfway there and realize I’ve forgotten my business cards. So I pull off at a gas station and start sending texts to arrange for the catsitter to pick them up from my apartment and FedEx them to me overnight. I almost always forget to pack something essential when I travel, but I no longer beat myself up about it – mind-management at work! While I’m in logistics mode I also text my boyfriend about a trip to the beach with my family at the end of the week. We are polar opposites; I like to plan 18 months in advance and he likes to decide on doing something a half hour before it happens. I often say our relationship is my greatest spiritual teacher because it brings up so many thoughts for me to work on. (I wouldn’t have it any other way!)
2:00 p.m. I’ve made it to Philadelphia. I splurge on valet parking at the hotel and bypass the conference registration desk to go to my room first. I am hangry and I need to do a little work before I can put on my friendly face to meet strangers! My assistant was on vacation the last few days so we have a lot to catch up on. I have emails to answer, applications for my program to review, and I need to check in and coach my clients before our live call tonight. I devour a turkey BLT from room service while I’m coaching them about money and self-esteem in our Slack group; multi-tasking at its finest!
4:00 p.m. Inbox conquered. I zip down to register and check out the podcast expo before it closes. I try to keep my podcast pretty simple and just focus on the content, and so far it’s served me well – I’ve been podcasting for a year and I’m up to 100,000 downloads a month and growing. But it’s always interesting to check out what new features are being pioneered!
5:00 p.m. I install myself at a café in the lobby of the hotel to try to set up some networking chats. I am a kind of extroverted introvert – what Joan Didion called a “gregarious recluse.” I hate giant groups of strangers but I’ll happily charm people one-on-one. Tonight I’m reviewing a list my team put together of podcasts on which I might want to appear as a guest, and I am contacting some of those folks to see if they are at this same conference and want to meet up. If all goes well at FedEx I’ll have my business cards in hand by tomorrow morning!
8:00 p.m. Time for a live coaching call for my UnF*ck Your Brain clients. I’m obsessed with the women in the program – they are smart and interesting and successful and hilarious and coaching them is my favorite thing in the world. Teaching women how to liberate themselves from self-critical thoughts and internalized social bullsh*t is the best feeling and I can’t believe I get paid to do it.
9:00 p.m. Work day is done! I left the novel I’m reading in my car so Netflix it is. I’m currently obsessed with the new Queer Eye reboot – I’ve read all the think-pieces about why it may be problematic, but I find it heartwarming. While I’m watching I check out a few options my assistant has sent me for custom graduation gifts for my UnF*ck Your Brain clients.
11:00 p.m. Lights out! A bit early for me but I want to be up for the conference sessions in the morning.